Being Yourself ❤️…

Have you ever kept something hidden,
about yourself?
Locked it away,
put it on the shelf.
Fearing judgment,
what people might say.
Because it is different,
they might not see it the same way.
So you feel like you,
have to hide.
That’s a part of yourself,
you’re keeping inside.
It’s not fair,
to you nor to them.
And by keeping it hidden,
no one wins.
Who you are,
becomes a lie.
You can’t be who you truly are,
no matter how hard you try.
Because that little part of yourself,
is digging a dark and deep hole.
One you can’t crawl out of,
burying your soul.
To everyone who refuses,
to accept.
Everything you are,
until there is nothing left.
Be all that you are,
despite the cost.
Be true to yourself,
then nothings lost.
Let it shine and be proud,
of who you are.
Pretending to be someone else,
won’t get you very far.

This is for you…

When I first met you
I felt like I had known you forever,
telling you my secrets
and what I didn’t want ever.
u listened to me
I bet you thought I’d never end lol
who would have thought
we would become more than just friends.
Over a period of time,
I got to know the real you.
A man so caring and gentle,
with a heart so true.
You’ve survived your life
with hurt and loneliness by your side.
I told you I’d never leave
because of the feelings I have inside.
I know you
like no one I have ever known,
and sometimes I wonder
what I’d do if you were gone?
So I have decided
time answers all.
If it is meant to be
time will remove the wall.
I love the way we are together,
you can always make me smile.
Will it ever really be forever?
I guess I will have to wait awhile.
Time will reveal, what lies ahead
but always remember
what I have said.
Meeting you has changed my life
and I really love you so,
the feelings I feel for you
I am never letting go.
Remember me always
and I will too.
I always think of
me and you.

Single Woman’s Prayer…

Single Woman’s Prayer

Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man who’s not a creep.

One who’s handsome, smart and strong,
Who’s not afraid to admit when he is wrong.

One who thinks before he speaks.
When he promises to call, he doesn’t wait six weeks.

I pray that he is gainfully employed,
Won’t lose his cool when he’s annoyed.

Pulls out my chair and opens my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.

Oh send me a man who will make love to my mind.
Know what to say when I ask “How fat is my behind?”

One who’ll make love till my body’s a’ itchin’
He brings ME a sandwich too, when he goes to the kitchen.

I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And never compare me to my best friend.

Thank you in advance and now I’ll just wait,
For I know you will send him before it’s too late.

Amen

Author Unknown

 

Honesty…!

I was talking to one of my male friends’ today about relationships and I’ve determined that men are not emotionally honest with women because they think the relationship would move to a friend zone state and love would no longer be an option. Let me tell you all something, we (as females) prefer a HONEST man. …. So to keep from being PUT into the Friend zone….honesty is the best policy! I believe the purpose of men being emotionally honest shouldn’t be just to satisfy us women, but also to live in honor as a man. A man who shares his emotional truth is simply being honest. We may not like hearing how u feel about us or our relationship, but we will know the truth, and we can work with that. A man who speaks from his heart is sharing his absolute truth, and deserves respect. Of course it works both ways lol.

Another thing that has been on my mind, why do men in general not know the answer to things? When you ask them a simple yes or no question they want to go around the bush, which later leads to lies…which leads to us getting upset…which leads to arguments….etc…and then at the end, the man says its Our fault because we asked the question. ….NOOOOO its your fault because u just couldn’t be upfront and honest! if we ask a question about our relationship… ansWer it we can handle our own feelings! GOODNESS!!!!!

Sorry just wanted to vent for a moment..i hate liars…, thought what better way to vent than to write.

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~Toodles XOXO~

Attitudes Make a Difference ❤️

Hello everyone! Have not written in a while! But I’m back at it… well for today that is. lol I was talking to my mother the other day and she brought to my attention, sometimes I need to work on my approach aka “My Attitude” So that’s what I want to discuss today ❤️

Have you ever looked at how you react to a situation? Not just glance but really examine what you do and say. Have you ever looked at your attitude? Is it positive? Negative? Either way, sometimes life knocks us down, it can be because of family, and or friends. But, that’s the nature of the way things happen in life. Things do… and will go wrong. The question is, how are we suppose to go about handling things? Where do we even start? First things first, we have to make sure we have the right attitude. If we go into a situation with a bad attitude, that’s exactly what we are going to get!!

Have you ever pre-decided before meeting a person you are not going to like them? Or what about going to a family outing automatically assuming “It will be boring” The fact is, you usually find exactly what you expect to find. Your pre – dispositions determine beforehand the way you will see things. Quick example..

“There are two brothers, both married with a wife and kids. The first brother wakes up in the morning and looks at his wife. Her hair is in rollers, face covered with cleansing cream and there’s a rip in her robe. He thinks to himself, “Man, what on earth am I doing with this woman?” The second brother, wakes up in the morning, looks at his wife and sees her hair in rollers, cleansing cream on her face, and also a rip in her robe. But he thinks “ Look at this woman, She is amazing, she jumps up, fixes breakfast and gets the kids off to school all before she takes care of herself, she’s my beautiful wife!”

So guys what made the difference here in this situation???

ATTITUDE!!!!

Just from a little common sense and research we learn that our responses to things are more so based off our attitudes than by what others actually do.

Things are going to go wrong.. We know that! But it is up to us to turn things around, and keep trying. It’s kind of like a mouse in a maze. There’s a place to go in and go out.. but there are a lot of dead ends and walls. When you run into a brick wall in life, you have to change your attitude, your heart and your direction to make it right again. No one is perfect. But, its up to us to make things right, when things go wrong. Just remember, “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me” – Philippians 4:13

~XOXO~

Tuesdays’ Love Rant..

Have you ever put yourself in a situation where you feel as if your heart is broken? But then u start to think about it and realize you are more disappointed in yourself vs. the other person actually breaking your heart? Currently, I’m in this situation, where I don’t know if I am Heart broken or just disappointed in the way things are going.

But it happens. Life goes on and I have to learn to just

…LET IT GO…

I’ve been hurt… man I’ve been hurt before. and bad! I completely let my guard down for that person and they just changed ..it hurt me to the point where i cried for months, you love someone and then they just disappear…poof …gone……and I admit, it has changed me…..random,  Was reading and fell upon this quote..thought i would share.

“ Everything changes. Sometimes you’ve just got to pick yourself up and keep moving on. Get up everyday and do your best. You will get through this. Put one foot in front of the other. Another man will come your way.”

The feeling of being in love is indefinable; and IF both parties put forth the effort… no one can come between the two of you. Sometimes I feel as if I was born after my time , because all I want is love, I don’t want the material things, i don’t want the jewels, the cars, or his money, or anything else. Just the feeling of having someone there for you thru thick and thin, no matter the attitude, no matter the weather or storms, that person is forever there, and WILLING to work hard to make a relationship work…being married or in a relationship with your best friend..

Relationships will not be easy, no one ever said it was. And if you are not focused on the relationship and not willing to put in the WORK…. it will not last… just because you have a disagreement, or you disagree on things, does not mean that is your queue to leave, especially if you call yourself loving that person. i dont see the point if you are in a relationship you should be able to to express your feelings to your spouse/ significant other and they respect whatever you say. yumay not be happy with the response or what they have to say, but if you love someone, you are still suppose to try… right? I don’t know, maybe love isn’t for me..but from watching my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and close friends…. LOVE is not easy but it is def. worth it

If i want Goodmorning texts, and Goodnight texts every day, should I have to tell him? Or should it automatically be expected? Should I have to ask if someone cares about me or should they just tell me vs showing me. These things are questions that I ask myself daily, i should not have to wonder all day or week if someone is thinking about me.. i just want to feel wanted..

like i thirst for the attention
but i don’t even know why
then other times
i don’t want to be bothered
it’s not that i’m depressive
i think i’m a lot of fun
i just have changes of mood
lately things aren’t satisfying
food is good, but there’s nothing i crave
i’m not unhappy, but i don’t feel joyous either
and i sit and think about what really makes me smile
usually the insignificant things
a surprise phone call
a piece of candy someone gives me
a good story told by a total stranger
and what do these things reveal
i like to be thought of
i want to be wanted

I wrote this out to see exactly where my thoughts and feelings were… i usually tweet about it or post about it on IG, but figured this would be a little better, kind of theraputic like music.