As a female, I have noticed an issue amongst several women, including myself. We fall for a guy, the relationship is fun, and somehow, somewhere along the way, things turn sour, leaving us ( as women) with heartbreak. He becomes mean, starts to ignore us more and more, and for some reason we just cannot figure out why.So we go on crying for weeks, walking around with our heads held low, letting that man… or woman (if you are a man reading this) take over our lives while they have moved on. And then it happens, that one person who we cried about, hated for several weeks calls, texts, messages us, and the cycle begins all over again.
This my friends is what we call “The Honey moon stage” , they come back into our lives as if they did nothing wrong. The plead their case apologizing saying they would never hurt you or your feelings again. They drown you with roses, kisses, gifts, etc. You once again have fallen into their “Trap”. They then become mean again, etc.
For most of us in our twenties, one of our ultimate goals is to find love . Most college men are not ready for relationships, and when we find one that is, we find ourselves falling for them quicker than ever. And when they break our hearts… I must admit, it hurts..
But if these men continually hurt us, why do we go back to them? Is it the familiarity? Is it because we’re lonely? Is it that we think we can’t find anyone better than them? The truth of the matter is that we are beautiful, intelligent women that deserve everything in a relationship and more. Sometimes, you just have to accept the fact that a relationship isn’t meant to be. Point blank. What’s for you won’t pass you by, and if this man breaks your heart, let him go. Perhaps what you’re holding on to doesn’t exist anymore.
It’s hard not to hold onto memories, but you have to remember that loneliness should never drive you back into the arms of someone you know you don’t belong with.So, if this “Man” doesn’t put forth a solid effort to fix the damage done in the past, LET HIM GO!!!!!!!!. If someone wants to be a part of your life, they’ll make strong effort to be in it. Don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay. Just remember that you can’t start the next chapter in your life if you’re still re-reading the last one.
#SideNote: A man should never define your happiness. You don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy.